Thursday, 4 August 2011

UK 2011 Part One

I was worried that I wouldn't be able to wake up on time Thursday morning, so I just decided to stay up all night, cleaning, packing, etc. I left my house around 3:45 AM and headed to the bus terminal. The airport is about two hours from here and the first bus leaves Cheonan at 4:30. So, I got there around 6:30 and got all through security etc. My flight from here to Japan left a little late and when I got to Japan they said I had to go to another terminal to catch my next flight. There was a bus waiting there to take people to the other terminal, but apparently he was waiting to fill the whole thing before he went, because I bet I waited almost 10 minutes. I was getting a bit nervous and the guy finally took off. I was cutting it close on time and when I got there people were boarding the plane. I can't image how upset I would have been to miss my first connection! HA! The flight to Copenhagen (although quite long) was a pleasant one and then I had just a short layover in Denmark before finally arriving in Manchester at just after 6 PM. Dad had booked a hotel very near the airport and I assumed "very near" meant like a 5 or 10 minute ride, but as the plane landed I could see the sign for "Bewleys" from the plane, so I decided just to hoof it over there. I couldn't believe how crisp and clean the air felt. It was probably around 60 degrees that evening. I finally made it across the road (after looking the wrong way both times...more on that later! HA) and upon my arrival into the lobby I spotted Mom and Dad!! I was soooo happy to see them, it had been two long years since I had last seen them and it was so nice to be able to give them a big hug and talk to them in person! The hotel was pretty nice and I got my stuff upstairs. We sat and talked for a while and it was around 10 PM before it got dark, which actually ended up being REALLY nice for the trip since it seemed to give us quite a bit more time to do things, and also it was nice because I don't think Dad or I see well at night either. After getting a good nights sleep we headed out pretty early the next morning. Here is a map I created from Google Maps that can kind of help you follow along and see where we went. Now, I have to give my dad some MAJOR credit for handling the driving for about 95% of the trip (I spared him a bit, even though my North Carolina license has since expired...HA) because driving a car with the steering wheel on the opposite side, cars on the opposite side, driving in a new country and shifting gears with your left hand is NOT EASY! Dad did a great job and I appreciate him doing that...I know it wasn't easy. So...we headed out and about 5 minutes down the road we accidently exited off the expressway...so, we kept our calm and made it back near the hotel and started off a second time. Our first destination was Scotland, so...the second time around we stayed on and headed north. The first decent sized town we came to was Lancaster and we stopped there for about an hour. There is a cool little castle called, interestingly enough, Lancaster Castle! HA! I knew we would see many castles along the way and so we decided to only enter a few of them since most of them were at least 5-10 pounds (between 10-17 dollars). So, we just checked out the outside of the castle and nearby church. The weather was great, nice and sunny and just cool enough that it was perfect. The little town of Lancaster was quite cool, and it felt good to be back in Europe after a few years.





We grabbed a quick bite to eat and headed north again and exited the expressway headed for Keswick. Expressway driving wasn't bad, but now the fun was about to begin...for anyone who hasn't been to Europe most places use roundabouts instead of stoplights and looking the opposite way from what you're used to for the past thirty five years (or in Dad's case sixty eight) isn't easy. Driving through the countryside was amazingly beautiful seeing all the rock walls and greenery.









We made our way through the narrow streets of the little village of Windermere, which interestingly enough was the name of ship that my ancestors had travelled on to the US, and on up to Keswick. Near Keswick, up a very very very narrow road is a little stone circle called the Castlerigg Stone Circle. I knew going to Stonehenge was out of the question since it was so far south from where we were, so Castlerigg seemed like our second best option. The circle was built around 4,500 years ago and it is believed that this area might have been used for seasonal gatherings and community negotiations. They also believe that possibly goods were exchanged in this area as well.









I loved the area near Keswick, there was also a cool lake near there called Bassenthwaite Lake. I wish the photos could capture just how beautiful it really was there.





After a short hike on a little path near the lake we decided to continue on and started back towards the expressway and the town of Carlisle. Historically this area was well known for being a Roman settlement and was established to serve some of the forts along Hadrian's Wall (a defensive fortification built around AD 122 by the emperor Hadrian). The Carlisle area became an important military stronghold, due to it's proximity to Scotland. There was a castle there that I wanted to see, and we drove near it, but oddly we were on the backside of it, so we could see some big block walls, but couldn't see the castle part of the front, so we missed it the first time. We drove down some side streets and finally I kept thinking "that HAD to be it..." We stopped and I asked a lady in a store where the castle was, now...I don't know about most of my American friends, but I for one can only understand about 75% of British English. If I watch a British movie I always find myself asking someone "what did he say?" This was the case here as well, the woman, although very kind, sounded like a British version of Charlie Brown's school teacher. I nodded and "umm hmm'd" and walked out of the store thinking "what did she say?" Basically I just figured on my own that the huge stone wall had to have been the backside of the castle, and I was right. So, we made our way back, paid our parking and took a stroll around the castle. Near the castle was also a really cool cathedral and so we went in there as well. There was a bucket near the entrance of the church saying "We don't have an entry fee, but kindly request a five pound donation." Ummm, yeah, $9 to look around a church for 3 minutes, no thanks! HA!










Our goal was to get up near Glasgow, Scotland by Saturday night, so after an hour or two in Carlisle we started driving again. I was glad that they had a Scotland sign posted on the expressway, and so we took a quick break and got a few pictures near there as well.



The drive up the expressway in Scotland was very nice, there were many small towns along the way, along with Lockerbie which I remember being somewhat famous for the 1988 airplane bombing that occurred near there. Dad was getting a bit tired and even though I technically wasn't a legal driver, I decided to help and drive for a little while. I wouldn't have done so if my license had been revoked, or something like that, but since it just expired I figured of course my skills were still up to par, so I drove for a while until we got near Glasgow. We started to look for some places to stay for the evening, but couldn't find much. Going into the trip we had planned to just find places along the way, since we didn't want too much of a schedule if we decided we wanted to change things up a bit. For everything else other than this night, it was a great idea..BUT...we drove and drove and drove and drove and couldn't find anything. We were all over the place and I was starting to get quite tired and very hungry. Finally we found a hotel, but it was full. Found another, it was full. The lady there was cool and had printed a map to find a hotel she said had some rooms, but Glasgow roads were full of construction, confusion, etc. After a wrong turn (thanks construction) next thing I knew we had been driving for maybe 2.5 hours and we were finally just lost at some gas station on the outskirts of town. I was doing my best to stay cool, but was caving under the pressure of finding a room on an empty stomach, an eight hour time difference and somewhat jet lagged. I asked the guy in the store if he knew anywhere and he was about as helpful as someone in a local DMV branch. There was a woman in there buying some bread and I asked "Do you know how I can find this Travelodge?" She knew right where it was and told me if I'd wait for her to buy her stuff, her and her daughter would help us find it. I assumed helping would mean getting outside and pointing down the road, telling about roundabouts and "wee bits" of driving we needed to do. But, I must say this lady and her daughter truly were angels. She said if I would, just follow them and they would take us to the hotel. It had to have been a five to six mile drive from where we were (and at $8 a gallon) and I felt bad they went so far out of their way. Finally I saw the Travelodge sign and they pulled right into the parking lot. I couldn't believe we were FINALLY there...we offered to give her some money and she utterly refused saying "ahh, it's a nice night for a drive!" I didn't get her name, but I was really really thankful that night for such a sweet lady, I know I never would have found that place, and I couldn't take any more aimless driving. We finally got checked in and I was sooooooo hungry. There was a little restaurant right next to the hotel and after getting our luggage inside we went down to the restaurant, I walked in and the lady said only the bar was open after 10 PM. I said "that's fine, we can eat before then" and she said "Umm, it's 10:05" HA! It was still light outside so I just assumed it was maybe 9, 9:30. So, that option was out. Mom had quickly built a friendship with the lady at the front desk and was able to understand her Scottish accent (something I never did figure out the whole time we were there) and so the lady had drawn a map to a Chinese place near the hotel. I was just done driving and being in the car, so mom and dad made their way to the place...I just knew if I got lost again I couldn't keep my composure. Anyway, after a bit they came back and we chowed down on some Chinese food (our first night in Scotland! HA) I felt much better after eating, but by this time I was just done with Glasgow. I had previewed the city before the trip and it oddly didn't seem very interesting to me, a few parks and museums, but nothing much else I wanted to see. Now, if any Glasgow residents stumble across this blog, I'm not trashing your city, so please no negative posts back to me, I just didn't feel like dealing with that city anymore. Mom laughed and said "you better not leave a negative comment about Glasgow on your blog" so...I'll respect her wishes and just move on. HA! Needless to say when morning came I was ready to head on, away from Glasgow, my nemesis!
Sunday was a beautiful, crisp, sunny morning, and I was excited to move on and get up to Stirling. Originally I hadn't even planned to go there, but after Mom had asked if we could go to Glasgow I had penciled Stirling in for a short stop between Glasgow and Edinburgh, with it's monument to William Wallace (Braveheart) and castle, it looked like a fun place to spend the morning. I had no idea how much I would fall in love with this little city of 34,000. We found the Wallace Monument with relative ease, as it was so tall it was impossible not to see. From the parking lot the monument looked huge up on top of the hill. Construction was finished on the monument in 1869 commemorating Sir William Wallace who bravely fought against British tyranny in the 13th century. There are several artifacts inside believed to have belonged to Wallace including his 5 foot 6 inch Claymore (aka sword). Also included inside the monument in a "hall of heros" with busts of many of Scotland's finest over the years. They had a gentleman who portrayed himself as William Wallace and gave a 15-20 minute presentation about the life of Wallace. He seemed very funny and knowledgeable and I enjoyed hearing him. (In the picture those people behind us ARE dwarfs, pretty cool eh? HA! No, there's just a little hill there you can't see) We then climbed up the 246 steps all the way to the top and the view from there was nothing short of amazing! It was rather windy at the top, but the views from there were something to behold, including far off mountain ranges, the beautiful winding River Forth and sites where seven different battle have taken place over the years.











After spending the better part of the morning there, and now realizing how much we all loved the area, we decided to just spend the day in Stirling. So, we ate a nice lunch there in the afternoon sun and then made our way across town first to see the Stirling Bridge and then to the Stirling Castle, which rested on top of a hill overlooking the city. On September 11, 1297 the forces of England were defeated in Stirling on the River Forth. At that time there was a wooden bridge which was collapsed to basically drown all the British and of course cut them off from being able to cross. The site of the battle now has a very cool looking bridge and park (if you look close you can see the Wallace Monument in the background).






If my memory serves me correct the castle was built around the fifteenth and sixteenth century and was the place where Mary, Queen of Scots was crowned in 1543. Many battles were waged against the castle and the last was around 1746 when Bonnie Prince Charlie tried, unsuccessfully to take it. In front of the castle is a statue of Robert the Bruce and the view back on the city and to Wallace Monument was amazing. It was a little expensive to enter at 13 pounds (around $25) but this was the first castle we actually went to, and one that I really wanted to see. We meandered a bit when we first got in, and then there was a guy saying that they would be having a tour in about 15 minutes from a certain meeting spot. I'm usually not big on tour groups, but this guy seemed kind of funny, so I was hoping he would lead the group. He did, and he was very animated and funny. He made huge cannon sounds, made us make huge cannon sounds, and was very funny and informative through our tour of the castle. I have trouble remembering OLD dates and names, so suffice to say that the castle is very famous, had many historical events there and was very, very cool. It was cool, there was a part of the castle that had previously been closed, but had only been opened to the public in early July, so we basically had a chance to see the entire castle. The castle itself and the grounds inside were spectacular.
























After a lovely day in Stirling I thought maybe it was time to move on the Edinburgh, so I asked the lady at the castle the best way to get going towards there. She asked what our plans were and I said we were planning to go there the next day and do some sightseeing. She said that Edinburgh (from henceforth called Eburgh just to shorten it! HA) was MUCH more expensive than Stirling and suggested we should just stay around there and make the 35 mile drive the next day. I knew mom had really wanted to stay at the Bed & Breakfast, and I secretly didn't...but this trip was about all of us and I had seen a street near the bridge that had many B&Bs. So, we drove back down there, checked the first one and she was full. I asked her if she had any friends that had a B&B and could she just call them and ask if they had any openings. She did and told us to drive down to Ravenswood. Click on that link and you can see the website and see our room that we stayed in (the first bedroom on the video). The owner, Stuart was really cool and after we checked out the place we decided to stay there for the night. His prices were good at 80 pounds (around $130) for the three of us, since he had free WiFi (what a novel idea, most UK hotels wanted to charge 12 pounds for it!) and a nice breakfast included. Our room had a double bed and a single, including our own bathroom. One of the biggest reasons I didn't want to stay at the B&B was the thought of sharing a bathroom, but my fears were put aside after we checked in. If you find yourself in Stirling, I HIGHLY recommend the Ravenswood B&B, it was a great stay! One of my favorite things to do on trips is just to make non touristy stops and strolls, and so after we had dinner we decided just to walk around the neighborhood in Stirling. It's a charming little town, and just walking around made it seem even more so. The houses there all seemed so cute and the yards well kept and clean. After getting back to Ravenswood we talked and decided that we really loved the Stirling area and wanted to stay one more day. We tried to think about what to do and decided to drive over to Loch Lomond and take a boat ride. So, after a good night's rest and a hearty breakfast of eggs, toast, yogurt, haggis and black pudding we left for a nice country drive down the A811 to the little village of Bulloch, on the south side of Loch Lomond. Loch Lomond as some may know is well know from the song The Bonnie Banks o' Loch Lomond which includes the lyrics:

Oh, ye'll tak' the high road, and I'll tak' the low road,
And I'll be in Scotland afore ye;
But me and my true love will never meet again
On the bonnie, bonnie banks o' Loch Lomond.

We boarded our vessel the "Silver Marlin" and enjoyed a two hour ride around the lake, the biggest in the UK, which had some beautiful views of Ben Lomond and many gorgeous homes and castles. On the ride we spotted a park area near the Bulloch Castle and so we decided to walk over to there and enjoy the afternoon. This actually turned out to be one of my favorite parts of the whole trip. At the base of the castle hill there was grass and trees with some nice shade, so we took a short break there and just sat and talked, enjoying the beautiful weather and some ginger snaps and cream cookies. It was just one of those moments for me where I realized how much I've missed my parents the last few years, and how happy I was to have this week with them. We laughed and told some stories, one of how dad's grandma used to buy ginger snaps because she knew none of the kids liked them, so she could eat them all (what a great idea! HAHA) and also he told about a trip to the store once where he ate all of his grandma's celery before they got back home, and she didn't notice and thought she had misplaced it! Anyway, it was just a fun moment for me, not to mention how beautiful and surreal it was to be sitting along the banks of Loch Lomond in Scotland. So, after eating for a bit we walked up to the castle and toured the rest of the grounds. It was so beautiful and fortunately for us the weather was very lovely too. After spending a few hours near there, we decided to head back to Stirling and spend one more night at Ravenswood before heading on to Eburgh. As we drove back into town, we had to stop one more time just to get a few more pictures of the amazing castle, I knew I'd be sad when we left in the morning!



























Tuesday, 19 July 2011

Heading out...

Well, in just a few short days I'll finally get to see my parents again and also have a chance to experience the United Kingdom.
I finally decided to add England, Scotland and Wales flags on here, the excitement was just too strong to not add them! HA!
I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their summer so far. I am doing well, I made it through the monsoon season here and it seems like REAL SUMMER is finally here, hot, hot and more hot. So, it'll be nice to get away to England and enjoy those high 60s temperatures for a few days.
Not much going on here lately, I've been trying to save all my schillings for the trip, so just been doing some hiking, cleaning, re-cleaning and re-re-cleaning (I have OCD you know) so pretty exciting stuff. Along with those things I also counted up all my coins I've saved and had around $49.00 Now all I need is to obtain 37 cats and I can officially be an old person! HA! No, actually I've really enjoyed just relaxing on the weekends, and I really have been doing some hiking and reading (both free, and both nice). In addition to that I've been trying to get some fun places lined up to go and I hope all of them are as cool as they've been in the books I've read or the websites I've seen.
If you'd like to track our trip, I decided to insert a GPS chip into my forehead and you can track us at the website I set up:
www.theholyoaksarethecoolesthippestfunnestfamilyintheworld.com
The chip will be activated the second I set foot on UK soil.
If you'd like to hear our conversations, on that website you can also click on the link "listen to all of Ben's babble" and that should take you to live conversations. The cost is just a mere $35 to add that option.
Anyway, to say I'm excited would be a major understatement. It was fun I talked to Mom and Dad tonight and was able to say "See you Friday!" which was just a very cool thought.

"There are none happy in the world but beings who enjoy freely a vast horizon"

Wednesday, 8 June 2011

Too late to post...










It's incredibly late here, probably too late to make a post, but I want to post a few of these pictures I have from hiking over the last few weekends.
Two weeks ago I met my friends Sangeun, Kyu and Ho Hyeon near Seoul to go do some hiking. We had a great time...it was probably one of the first hot days of the summer. One thing about hiking near Seoul is that there are tons of people even on the mountain. It surprises me sometimes how many people will be hiking on a weekend...I guess I'm used to the States where usually if you're quite a ways up the mountain you are likely to either see no people, or very few people. Well, the mountain we went on there were people selling drinks and ice cream at the top! HA! I have no idea how those dudes packed that stuff up to the top...but they did. Seems like a lot of work, more than I'd want to do. I'm sure they made bank though...once we reached the summit there were 100s of people laying around eating and talking, it was nuts!
This past weekend we had a three day weekend (Monday was like Korean Memorial Day). I really wanted to go somewhere, but I opted to just stay around here and save some money for the summer trip with Mom and Dad. So, I did some late spring cleaning and then just went hiking alone on the mountain near my house. There were way fewer people! HA!
So, enjoy some pics from the hikes.
PS: The pictures where you can see the water, those are rice fields, they are growing rice here now...I'm not a farmer, but from the best I can tell they basically flood the fields with water about mid leg level, I guess rice has to be very wet to grow.
PPS: The pics will the little mounds are graves, people like to get buried on the mountains here...maybe these people were too out of shape to climb the mountain, so they just buried them at the spot! HA!

Sunday, 22 May 2011

GQ Interview

Hey everyone...it's finally spring here and man am I loving it! Nice to go to school without having to take a sweater or jacket in my bag...just a t-shirt, I love it.
Well, I have to say I was a little disappointed that no one (especially YOU Becca) asked what my last blog post "Sacra Querco" means...I was just waiting to answer that, but since no one asked, I will just tell you! HA! It is actually on the Holyoak Coat of Arms and it's Latin for "Seeking for the sacred." So, anyway, mystery solved.
I just so happened to have been interviewed this past week by Gentleman's Quarterly, better know as GQ Magazine and I'd like to share some of that interview with you all now.
GQ: Good afternoon Mr. Holyoak. Should I call you Mr. Holyoak or can I call you Ben?
Ben Holyoak: Ummm, I guess Ben would be fine.
GQ: OK, so, Ben...what are you up to these days?
BH: Well, I'm currently living and working in Asan, Korea. It's a small city of about 250,000 people 2 hours south of Seoul. I teach English to children and also some random university students who pose as my friends so they can learn without having to pay a fee.
GQ: Wow, sounds cool. How long have you been there?
BH: Almost three years, this June will be three.
GQ: How do you get to your school each day?
BH: Well, I do have a private jet and helicopter, but since it's only a twenty minute walk, that's usually the option I go with. When it's rainy or a little cold I usually take the helicopter.
GQ: So, how's walking to school?
BH: Well, other than having to watch for BBQ Chicken delivery scooters on the side walk it's quite refreshing and nice actually. I usually try to enjoy the flowers or trees and normally I listen to some music on my way.
GQ: What do you have in your tape player?
BH: Excuse, me? Tape player?
GQ: Yes, your tape player. You said you like music.
BH: Ohhhh, yeah...well, I don't have a tape player, I prefer to listen to MP3s.
GQ: Oh, splendid. Well, what do you have on your MP3?
BH: Well, my recent favorite band who I think is way under-appreciated is The Reign of Kindo. Unlike most acts these days these guys are actually talented. They write their own songs and play their own music. Pretty novel idea.
GQ: What's your favorite song by them?
BH: I really like October's Storm. Great song. It talks about overcoming hardships in your life and focusing on the present and making the most of each day and not fretting about the past troubles or mistakes you've made.
GQ: Wow, sounds great. So, how's Korean food?
BH: Excellent...I love it. Don't know how I ever lived without it. I love kimchi jjigae.
GQ: Any American food or drinks you miss?
BH: Yes, even though I love Korean food there are times I find myself really craving some American food. In Charlotte I used to go with one of my good friends Tammy to this African Episcopal Church at lunch time. They had a cafeteria there, and they had the best southern food. Corn bread, greens, chicken, puddin...so good. I also miss BoJangles biscuits. I think about Cheerwine almost every day...that's one soda I wish they sold here in Korea. My friend Brandon went back to NC this week to visit his parents and took a picture of a drink machine at the park and sent it to me...made me jealous! I also really miss Taco Bell, I know that sounds funny, but I could stuff my face with several Chalupas and Gorditas!

GQ: So, tell us a little more about yourself, any funny quirks or anything?
BH: Ummm, no.
GQ: You sure? Your sister said...
BH: Well, OK. Yeah, sure, I have some funny quirks. I don't like stepping on manhole covers. It's been years since I have. Even if I have to go around it, or a group of people, I do.
GQ: That's weird.
BH: Shut up!
GQ: Any more?
BH: Are you going to call me weird?
GQ: No!
BH: Promise?
GQ: Yes!
BH: OK, well, I hate even numbers. Kind of strange that didn't bother me years ago. My high school basketball number was 10, but now I don't or couldn't have an even number as a jersey number. I'm a big fan of the number 17. Also 21 and 31. Usually when I set my alarm it's for one of those numbers. If it has to be later it's either 45 or 55.
GQ: OK, you're weird.
BH: Yeah, maybe so.
GQ: Do you live alone?
BH: Well, I did until recently. Last week I bought two plants that keep me company. I try to take good care of them and treat them well, I think they enjoy staying with me.
GQ: Are there any American or other foreign products that they sell in Korea that you're glad to have.
BH: Yeah, I'm a huge fan of the Dove soap. One of my favorite smells in the world. I have a very strong sense of smell. I love Dove, makes me happy to smell it. Also I'm a fan of Nivea products, and use them frequently. Probably more than anything though is how thankful and grateful I am to have Snickers here in Korea. I can't tell you how happy biting into a Snickers makes me during break time at school.
GQ: So, did you survive Doomsday, May 21, 2011.
BH: Um, stupid question. Obviously I did, it's May 22.
GQ: Oh yeah.
BH: Idiot.
GQ: A lot of people think that Asians all look the same, do you think so?
BH: No, not at all. Asians think Westerners all look the same though.
GQ: Really?
BH: Yeah, serious.
GQ: Have you ever been compared to any pop culture figure?
BH: You wouldn't believe how many times I've have people say "Wow, you look JUST LIKE Shemar Moore!

GQ: Really?
BH: Yep.
GQ: Where do you see yourself in 10 years? What are your goals?
BH: Well, if everything goes according to plan I'll be living on a beach somewhere in Vietnam, maybe in a small little house with a hammock, some books and a fridge full of Cheerwine.
GQ: Serious?
BH: Sure!
GQ: Thanks for your time...it was a pleasure interviewing you.
BH: Yeah, no prob. How much do I get paid again?


HA...anyway, I hope everyone is doing great. I'm really looking forward to this summer's trip with Mom and Dad to England. I recently ordered my Aston Villa stuff so I can be all suited up when we get there.
Here are the lyrics to that Reign of Kindo song in case anyone cares. It's one of the best written songs I think there is.

THE REIGN OF KINDO-OCTOBER'S STORM
I swung beneath the battered trees
the sunlight kissed and greeted me
it broke right through the clouded skies above
adorned the trees with shining love
and veils of doubt and shadows fled my eyes

The saddest looking trees
broken and bruised in the fateful October’s storm
stripped of their majesty

The storm came in the night
it crippled this town, unannounced and unmercifully bawling
tears of wet snow

Though the trees cried through the night
there was none to cure their plight
and it seemed their better days
would behind them ever stay

On that clouded day
years had since passed since the fury of October’s storm
when I found that old swing

They were standing high above
when the sunlight came down and revealed to my eyes such a wonder
they were bursting with life

No matter what storms you’ve seen
no matter the broken dreams
you’ve yet to see mend
consider the battered trees
their leaves dancing in the breeze
recalling no memory
of October’s storm.

Monday, 25 April 2011

Sacra Querco







I hope everyone had a Happy Easter and enjoyed your weekend. As some of you may or may not know this summer I am going to meet my parents in England and we are going to go roaming around the UK. Now, before I even get started, I AM going to count any "countries" that we might go to towards my goal of visiting least 30 countries...I know some of you might say that technically Scotland or Wales are not by definition countries and they are both part of the UK, well any of your protests will fall on deaf ears! HA! So, I am going to add their flags and if anyone has a problem then they can just deal with it! HAHAHA!
So, to say I'm excited would be an understatement...I think about it pretty much everyday and have been trying to find some cool places and sites to see, but let me tell you all how this future journey even came to be.
For years I have seen some names of my relatives on paper, genealogy sheets or whatever and they were just that...names of mostly old dead people I had never seen nor read anything about. They were as real to me as Casper the Friendly Ghost or some other fictional character. I never really cared much to know any of them and for years I didn't really think much about it at all. Well, for some unknown reason a few years ago I became a little serious in looking up especially the Holyoak family history. No offense to Mom's side of the family, but for some reason it seemed much easier to track the Holyoak name, maybe because of it's uniqueness. I figured pretty much anyone with the same last name as me had to be related at some point! So, I found a cool website holyoak.org I thought it was pretty fun to find something with my name on it, and so I signed up as a member. Well, I poked around a little and not much else. I think about that time my dad had ordered a family history book called Holyoaks: From Kings Norton to the Everlasting Hills. This book was the history of the Holyoaks from George (my great great great great grandpa) and his wife Sarah. I was quite excited to check out the book the next time I saw my dad. I really enjoyed reading some about the family and knowing a little about where I came from and a little about some of those "names" I had seen before.
Well...everything kind of settled back and I didn't think about it much for a while. After time had passed I checked the website again and got in touch with the administrator, Chad Nichols via an e-mail. He referred me to another site that he runs called eancestry.org I couldn't believe it the first time I saw this site, it was amazing. I know Chad (my awesome 5th cousin! HA) has spent uncountable hours on this site. I couldn't believe it as I kept going back, further and further into my family history I was in awe. 1800s. 1700s. 1600s! The dates just kept going. I saw churches where people were married and christened. I saw old black and white photos, now I could attach a face to a name. I saw records of my family coming onto the American shores in the 1800s. I read stories and knew details about people. It was an incredible experience and for that I'd like to thank Chad for his time...that was probably the experience that really got me excited about learning about my family. So...fast forward to just a few months ago, one night I was home and flipping through the channels and I saw a show come on. The name is "Who Do You Think You Are?" People (some mostly B rate celebs) are on there and they try and go to places where their family lived and find out things about their past. It hit me while I was watching that..."why don't I do that?" So, in a half joking, half serious e-mail to my parents I said "why don't we meet in England and see some places where our family lived?" I know it isn't easy to meet sometimes even for a Sunday dinner, much less for me to fly from Korea and Mom and Dad from the States and meet in the middle...but, I was very happy when they e-mailed back and said "let's make it happen!" It's kind of the best of both worlds for me, I get a chance to see my dear parents AND I get to travel and see somewhere new as well as walk some of the same places where my family once walked, farmed, worked and loved. The best part is that quite a few of Mom's family are also from England, and actually quite close to Dad's...so, we should be able to find a lot of places and see a lot of things from both sides of the family. Most of Dad's family are from around Birmingham area...Yardley. As I've read more about my family I thought "I sure wish I would have had a chance to talk to some of them and hear about their lives" things that made them happy, hard times, things they learned, wisdom they could pass along...all those kinds of things. So, this weekend the weather was nice...I was out for a walk and I thought "I should write them a letter!" Now, I know they are all passed away, and so, on the one hand this is quite silly, and on the other I think a fun chance to share some thoughts and ask some questions. I have not lost it, and I do realize they can't answer...so please don't worry about my sanity! HA!
OK...now, I know this post doesn't pertain to some, and maybe others of you have stopped reading already, but...if you ARE interested, I want to share my line with you, back to my 10th great grandpa, and then give you a little info I found out on a few of them.
I will start with me and move backwards (I'm not going to put my birthday or dad's just in case some weirdos are trying to steal our info! HAHAHA! Also some of the old dates might be christenings and not birthdays)
Ben E. Holyoak
Wilford N. Holyoak
James Otto Holyoak 9/15/1908
James Nehemiah Holyoak 4/26/1872
Nehemiah Green Holyoak 11/25/1848
William Holyoak 4/12/1825
George Holyoak 1/17/1799
Isaac Holyoak 3/4/1763
Thomas Holyoak III 1/1/1724
Thomas Holyoak Jr. 6/4/1699
Thomas Holyoak 10/13/1667
George Holyoak 4/6/1634
Henry Holyoak ??

Some of them obviously are too old to know much about, but there are a few I'd like to share just a little bit about. Probably the most remarkable of them (at least that I can read about) is my great great great grandpa, William Holyoak. My grandfather lived an incredibly difficult life, and after reading some of his history, it makes me feel ashamed that I ever complain about my life. At 21 years old William married his sweetheart Martha Green. A few years later she gave birth to my great great grandpa, Nehemiah Green Holyoak. Three days after Nehemiah Green's birth Martha passed away. William left Birmingham and moved away to Leamington, where he became a leather tanner and plasterer. His son Nehemiah Green stayed with his parents. He later remarried and soon after headed to the USA from Liverpool, England in January 1850 on the ship Argo. Most of the journey to the US was smooth sailing, although there were reports of some people getting cholera and also as the ship neared Cuba it almost dashed against the rocks. When William arrived in the States he said he had .25 in his pocket. He and his new wife Sarah moved to St. Joseph, Missouri. While there Sarah gave birth to two children, both of which died. By the spring of 1856 he had saved enough money to make the long trek across the plains. Now, his parents and son had by this time also made the voyage across the Atlantic on the ship Windermere and arrived in the US in April 1854. I'm not sure if he made the trip to Utah with his parents or not...that was a little hazy. I don't think they did...but regardless, his mother passed away on the plains in Hamilton County, Nebraska and he also lost two sisters, Martha who died in 1854 in Jackson County, Missouri and Ann who died in Wyoming the same year. In time he migrated to Parawon, Utah and settled in there. In time William served as the mayor of Parawon on two different occasions from 1883-1886 and also from 1894-1895. He planned a city park and spent a lot of time working to make the area beautiful. He and his wife lost a few more children and before he passed away seven of his eleven children had died before he did. He passed away March 28, 1914 and from what I read the schools and all the businesses in Parawon closed the day of his funeral. What a tough life he must have lived. There is more I could share, but mainly just wanted to share some of Willam's life with you. He seemed like a really amazing man and reading and knowing more about him now brings him to life in my mind, he's not just a name with two dates, he was my grandpa. So, I am really excited to go to England and see the places where the Holyoaks lived...I am very proud of my name and proud to be a Holyoak. I come from a long line of good folks and hope I have always lived up to the family name. Who knows if I'll ever have kids...maybe so, maybe not. I am really glad that my brother has a dear sweet son Derek that at this point can at least pass on the family name! I'd like to write my short letter now to my grandpas...just some of the things I wish I could ask and could share with them about me.
Dear Grandpa Holyoak,
I'm writing you this letter since I never had a chance to ask you some of the things I'd like to know now. I never had the chance, or in some cases was too young and foolish to ever know that at some point in my life I'd like to know some of these things, if for nothing else more than just some amusement. Grandpa Otto, what was my Dad like when he was a boy? I know he is a fine man now, but I'd like to know what he was like when he was young. What things did he do that made you angry? What did he do that made you just want to hug him and never let him go? I know you lost your first daughter when she was young, how did you deal with that? Grandpa Nehemiah Green, how was it growing up with your grandparents? What kind of games did they play with you? What do you remember about your time in England? Did you ever miss there once you reached the dry deserts of Utah? Grandpa William, how did you live through all of that and always stay positive? To lose so many people your first wife, seven children, your Mom and sisters on the plains...what kept you going? How did you not just want to give up? I've had some hard times in my life too, but nothing compared to that. How was it being a mayor in an old west town? Did anything scary ever happen there? Were you ever fearful for your own life as you crossed the plains to Utah? Were you scared on the ship ride to the US? How did it feel to leave everything behind that you had, knowing that you would never see those things again?
I hope all of you are proud of me...I've tried to live a good life. I have failed at times. I have failed miserably. I have been down, I've been sad, I've felt like just giving up, but like you I just kept trying. I've tried to be a good son and a good person. I have seen many fun and intriguing places, I've lived abroad. I've tried (unsuccessfully I might add) to learn a new language.
I feel lucky and blessed to have a chance to see some of the same places you all once lived...I hope I can feel your spirit there. I hope I can feel you as the wind blows on my face and I see some of the same flowers you once loved so much. I hope you know I am thankful for you all and your sacrifices so that I could be here today.
I love you all and would like to dedicate this song to you,
Ben

Sunday, 3 April 2011

Another post...




I tried to come up with a somewhat clever and catchy title for this post, maybe I just haven't had enough calcium the last while and it's somehow effecting my brain. So, I thought maybe the lack of a catchy and clever title could somehow be clever. I was thinking on my walk to school the other day...the reason I seldom post these days is because I don't really do as much as I once did. Things that were once fascinating to me, are still cool...but not near as exciting as they once were. My camera has pretty much been stowed away and I don't get out as much as I did when I first came here...but that doesn't mean my brain has stopped working and I can't share my awesome and interesting thoughts and perspectives with you, my lucky readers! HA!
MLB kicked off this weekend, I've been really happy for the start of the year, I know a lot of people feel baseball is "boring" or "antiquated" but I think that couldn't be further from the truth. I have always loved baseball, I wish I would have been better as a kid, I wasn't bad, but I could just never excel. I remember I got hit once or twice when I was a kid and I think it always made me gun shy, but anyway...so I purchased the MLB Ticket so that I can see all the Rockies games in their entirety. I'm pretty excited, it has severely interrupted my sleep schedule, but what could be better than seeing Ubaldo on the mound in Denver at 5 AM local time?! HA! Unfortunately the Rocks lost game one, but came back and won game two, so...2 games down, 160 to go! I doubt I'll be able to watch every game, but I like feeling connected.
I've recently also been watching some crime TV shows, I have around 150 channels and about 5 or 6 in full time English (other channels have some Korean shows, some English speaking...I don't count Star Sports as an "English" channel, with that dreadful Aussie accent I think I can understand more on the Korean channels). Anyway, one of those channels shows pretty much every silly crime show there is" CSI, Criminal Minds, Without a Trace, etc.
I enjoy trying to solve the mysteries as much as the next guy but I noticed a troubling trend on my previously favorite show Criminal Minds. I've noticed that solving a crime on that show is just too easy. There is a computer guru techie geek named Garcia. She's the flamboyant, goofball (every show has to have at least one, right?). Well, I've noticed over time that her computer seeking skills far exceed any that I have been able to acquire in my 13+ years of internet usage. The team can be investigating a crime, find a used coffee cup, talk to some people in town who saw a red truck driven by a dude wearing a flannel shirt. So, the other FBI agents can call Garcia from the road in let's say Elk City, Oklahoma,(she stays put in Quantico at FBI Headquarters) and tell her to track all males who have bought a flannel shirt at the Elk City Wal-Mart. She finds just over 52 flannel shirt sales since 2010. Then she is able to narrow her search using those 52 names and searching which of them own a red truck. That search is then narrowed to 14. From there, all she has to do is search who likes coffee from Joe's Java Joint (the name of the coffee shop listed on the previously mentioned cup). The search is then narrowed to just 2 people. She e-mails pictures of the two guys, the others go to Joe's Java Joint where they show the pics and a 17 year old pimple faced part time high school student identifies the killer. Magic! Viola! I mean, is it really that easy to be in the FBI? So, I've slowly started losing interest and I want the other agents to solve a crime without the help of the Magic Internet.
OK, that was pretty random, but it's something I've been thinking a lot about on my 25 minute trek to my school each day.
Spring is finally starting to show signs of life...I'm more than ready to accept it with open arms. Not only can I save on my gas bill (yes, I'm a cheap skate) but I can also actually sit outside and just enjoy myself (well, as long as the radiation from Japan doesn't float too far west!).
I'm hoping to go to a famous botanical garden here this spring. True story (not sure if I told you all this before) but last year I e-mailed my favorite professor from Pfeiffer University (my alma mater) from which I am an alumnus. Actually, before I go on with my story I have to say, that was one thing that used to irritate me back in the States, seeing a bumper sticker that read "Redneck County Community College Alumni". Alumni is plural, so if both parties that owned the car went to school at RCCC, then the bumper sticker is correct, otherwise it should read "Redneck County Community College Alumnus (or alumnae)" But anyway. OK, so I emailed my favorite professor Mr Ingram just to rub in a little after Duke won the championship this time last year (he's a UNC guy). So, I told him I was living in Korea and he told me that his wife's uncle actually started one of the biggest and most well know botanical gardens in Korea back in the 1950s. He had come here after the Korean war and loved living here, so stayed and bought some land and started Chollipo Botanic Garden. So, apparently he lived here until his death in 2002 and actually became a naturalized citizen of Korea. So, I'm hopeful I can make it that way this spring and get some pics!
Anyway, enough of my post for today. I will try harder to at least post something even if it doesn't involve a fun trip or beautiful pictures.